Jan 2020

Do you make New Year's Resolutions? ...or maybe you think about it more in terms of making new plans or setting new goals.

When I think about a resolution, I think about the root word, "resolve". I think ‘firm decision’. It's that state of mind that says, "I've come to a conclusion". About what though?

I've found that most people are pretty aware of at least a couple things about themselves that they'd like to improve. Are there any areas of your life that you’d like to make better? Do you make New Year's Resolutions in an attempt to improve? Maybe you're thinking of them now. Maybe there's something you want to STOP doing that isn't so beneficial like ...shooting yourself in the foot for example. I mean, after awhile it starts to hurt, right? At some point we come to the conclusion that maybe something we say or do is hurting more than it’s helping and we have …an Aha Moment.

Recently, I was made aware of how harmful the ingredients in soda are. Yup. True story. Now to be clear, I love the taste of soda. But you know what I love even more than the taste of soda? My health. Shortly after we met, Sandy shared her philosophy. She said, “I don't know when I'm going to die, but I want to be healthy until then." I had never thought about my health and the uncertainty of life in those terms. Once it clicked in my mind about soda’s ingredients and their affect on my body, I had an Aha Moment and a new habit became a whole lot easier. Now when we go out, I order 2 waters; one with lemon. I get the lemon.

Or maybe you'd like to START doing something that will benefit someone in some way. I had read about the power of complimenting. Shortly after we started dating, I decided to use our friendship as a laboratory. I watched how Sandy responded whenever I paid her a sincere compliment. Every time I saw her I looked for something credible and complimented her. And guess what? She started responding positively. The more I learned about her, the more I broadened my scope of compliments. Every time she smiled, every time she said Thank You, it reinforced my theory. I have now made this practice a habit. We’re coming up on two years of marriage and you know… I think she likes me.

Ryan had an Aha moment. I met him at the gym recently. It dawned on him that his soon-to-be wife weighed 120 pounds while he weighed in at 320. He said, “Paul, I wanted to look good for my wife.” He came to the conclusion that working out on a regular basis hurt a lot less than being overweight. He changed his lifestyle and reduced his weight - 110 pounds in 6 years! Now that’s what I call a resolute decision.

For 2020, my goal is to be a better man. In my men's groups, we talk about life in terms of 5 F's - faith, family, fitness, finances and friends. My plan is to learn just one new thing in each of those five areas...and then apply it in my laboratory of life!

So …do you make New Year's Resolutions? Have you had some Aha Moments? I want to hear about it! I want to hear about YOUR journey. What was 2019 like? What are you thinking about for 2020?